#5 of Ten

  1. Trust can help open the door of opportunity.

Coaches are gifted with certain talents and abilities.  Most of which – this author contends – comes from being a parent. 

By virtue of this blessing, our life experience and being on this planet much longer than all of you, we can honestly picture you in 2, 5 or maybe even ten years.

And this trait has nothing to do with guess-work.

But everything to do with vision.

This just happens to be one of the most important tools we coaches have at our disposal: to be able to “see” you  just a little bit into the future.  

Not that we are at all interested in bypassing the present by any means.

It is simply the ability  to detect  and divine  the potential that lives within you now.  

And because with that,  we can capture an  image of you reaching your potential somewhere down the road.  

All so that we can try to help you see it now.  


Then, move towards it.  

Now this ability can be both a blessing and a curse.  A true test of ability, effort and faith if ever there was one. 

For both of us.

Just because we can see it – does not mean you can, you will,  or would ever even want to be or become what we can see.  

Add to that the simple fact that too often, the act of sharing what we see can get misconstrued.  It might come off as  “its what you want me to be”.  That has all the potential of being viewed as  intrusive.  Crossing  a line.  Resented as controlling, forcing it, or hovering.  

All valid concerns.

So let’s just leave it like this:

Kids – if you can learn to listen with your heart as much as with your ears, then you will recognize that our words to you  come from the same exact place; the heart.  

Those words are born of our love for you.  

They are the genuine article.  

They can be trusted.  

So when you can find a way to accept them as such, big things will happen.

For all of us.



Author: Mark J. Hahn

"To be there when the light goes on." Those few, powerful words, succinctly sum up my quest as a coach. That is really what it is all about. This is precisely what drives me. To have good fortune shine upon me briefly so that I can be present at that very moment. The instant of revelation. When the years of heavy lifting results in it making sense for someone else. The almost audible “click”, followed instantaneously by an unmistakable incandescence. The illumination that can only accompany accomplishment. To see bean in the eyes, the look on the face, a change in stature and the air of confidence overtake and envelope the protoge, the “project” or the late bloomer. That is why I am in it. There may never be a stat for achieving those kinds of victories. But it is by far the most important “w” I will ever achieve.

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