“Except in a very few matches, usually with world-class performers, there is a point in every match (and in some cases it’s right at the beginning) when the loser decides he’s going to lose. And after that, everything he does will be aimed at providing an explanation of why he will have lost. He may throw himself at the ball (so he will be able to say he’s done his best against a superior opponent). He may dispute calls (so he will be able to say he’s been robbed). He may swear at himself and throw his racket (so he can say it was apparent all along he wasn’t in top form). His energies go not into winning but into producing an explanation, an excuse, a justification for losing.”
― C. Terry Warner
At times we can be our own worst enemy.
Choosing to succumb to a brand of “pretzel logic”, of our own design.
A calculated mindset that knowingly selects the thoughts, words and actions aimed solely at undermining a meaningful moment and the opportunity that comes with it.
A premeditated excusing of ourselves for the failure that is meant to follow.
Think of the misspent and misdirected time, energy and emotion it takes to twist ourselves into this level of self-directed illusion.
Perhaps it really isn’t so much the failing as it is the achievement that we come to fear the most. As Marianne Williamson once said; “Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”
We can grow accustomed to the friendly confines of our comfort level. We can better “manage” our expectations and those of others when we are in familiar territory. After all, there is no stress in maintaining the status quo, right?
However, there are all sorts of potentially harmful side effects of aiming higher.
For such risky endeavors may result in actual achievement.
They have been known to lead to excellence.
Followed by – gasp – success.
And once that happens, “Katy; bar the door”.
A whole new set and level of expectations need to be created and – heaven forbid – maintained.
That is just no way to live.
At your best.
Sheesh, what will they want next ?